The pics of the single tool is the one I attempted to use, the carbide tools were the ones that came with the lathe I used the one in the middle.
Ok, now we're getting somewhere.
The carbide-insert tool you used is (at best) a threading tool. If you swing your toolpost over, it'll work like a normal turning tool since the inserts are all the same (though the seat angles may not be), but if you presented that point-in to the work, that's certainly not helping your surface finish.
Amongst your carbide tools, the one intended for turning, from tailstock towards headstock, is the one at the left of the photo. Present that to the work with the tool-holder perpendicular to the turning axis.
[edit] looking again, I take that back. I think the one on the left is actually supposed to be a boring bar. There should be one that's the mirror image of the one on the right, that should be for diameter turning, tailstock-to-headstock. The boring bar geometry isn't horrible for diameter turning though.
The HSS tool that you used is a sheer facing tool, intended for cutting in to, and facing the right side of a step diameter change, from smaller radius on the right to larger radius on the left. It also won't turn diameters for beans.
The tool ground most like how
I would grind a diameter-turning tool (tailstock-to-headstock turning) is the 2nd from the left in your box of bits. Others might prefer different geometries for that, but that tip profile, minus the pocket removed from the left, is my go-to utility HSS diameter-turning profile. Again, presented shank of the tool perpendicular to the turning axis.
As for setting the tool height I put a centre in the tailstock and moved the carriage and tool post up to it and then shimmed the tool up to the centre point I don't know if this is the best way to do it
The best way I know of to get the tool adequately on center, is to grab a steel ruler or other long, thin, straight length of metal, and pin it between your work and the tool tip. Shim, or otherwise adjust your tool height until the ruler ends up perfectly vertical when pinned against the work. If it tilts "forwards" over the work, your tool is too high, and if it tilts "back" towards the operator, your tool is too low.
... and don't trust that your tailstock center is the same height as your headstock center...