Here is another example where someone asks a question about soldering, and the lines between soldering and brazing are immediately blurred.
What is the material makeup of your parts (i.e. the base material of each part)? What is the maximum operating temperature the joint must endure? Would you describe the joint as heavily loaded, or lightly loaded? What is your intended heat-source for making the joint - oxy-fuel torch, fuel-air torch, electric iron, etc? The answers to these questions will impact your solder selection (60/40 lead-tin alloy, or a higher temperature lead-free tin alloy) - whereas an elevated joint operating temperature and/or higher stressed joint might warrant using a stronger sliver "brazing" alloy.
For soldering In NY, youll have a choice between rosin soldering flux, or acid soldering flux. A rosin flux is typically used within electronic applications, where a strong flux is not required to obtain proper wetting action and also because acid fluxes can damage electronic components. For general joining of metals however, youll probably want to use a good acid-flux like the type intended for soldering copper pipes (assuming your parts are made of brass or bronze).
Based on what Ive read thus-far of your intended application, I would recommend using lead-free tin solder, with acid pipe-soldering flux, and a fuel-air soldering torch.